How to Play the Game

The Yes or No game is quickfire, quick thinking, and rapid speaking. It's great for playing with large groups of youth as an icebreaker or with smaller groups so that everyone can take part.

Here's how you can play the Yes or No game.

Resources

You can play this game with very little resources. It is great for playing as a quick game with young people when you don't have any resources.

You can still improve the game by using these resources:

Gong - A gong is a device that can be struck when someone says "Yes" (see video below). You can also use cymbals, airhorns or a spoon to hit a pot.

Timer - While you don't need to track how long they last it adds an extra element of competition and can be used to determine who wins a prize, if you wish to.

Questions - You can make a list in advance of all the questions you want to ask in case you forget.

Rules

The Yes or No game rules are simple and easy. A young person must answer a series of questions. Normally, they would have to answer "Yes" or “No". However, the young person cannot say any of these words. You can't make them nod or shake your head.

You might ask a young person if they have any siblings. Their natural instinct would be to reply "No" or "Yes", however, instead they would need to respond with "I have two - one brother or one sister".

The next question you could ask them is "Did your mother say that you had three brothers?" If they respond with "No, I only have two," then you'll be able to trick them into thinking otherwise. You can ask them the questions quickly so they don't have to think about it.

You can keep the game going for as long as the youth is able to say "Yes" and "No", or you could set a time limit of one or two minutes. If they are unable to say either of these words for that amount of time, they will win or the next person gets to play.

Winner

The person who can say both of these words for the longest time.

Questionnaire: Yes or No

You don't have to ask closed-ended questions. Ask them open-ended questions. You could try these Yes or No game questions:

Are there any siblings or brothers?

Did you say three?

What are their names?

How do you spell the name of your brother?

Was it .........? (repeat the spelling of the brother's last name)

Are you younger than him?

What is his age?

Are you able to get along well with others?

Which is his favorite sport?

Have you ever played that with him?

Is your sport better than his?

What is his birthday?

What gift did you give him as a birthday present?

Was he happy with it?

How to Use the Game

This game can be played in many settings, as we said at the beginning. This game is also great to use before a youth ministry talk, or as a starting point for a youth work session about some of these topics:

  • Peer pressure - How it can be difficult to say no to your friends (or hard to say yes if your friends oppose it).

  • Social skills - When teaching children conversation skills, it is important to help them go beyond one word answers.

  • Interview preparation – Similar to the previous social skills point, you could play this game prior to mock interviews to help them get into the habit of answering more questions and being more conversational.

  • Keep your eyes on the goal - If they aren't focused while playing the game it's easy for them to accidentally say "Yes" or “No".

  • Temptation – The person asking the questions wants to tempt your answer. It's important to resist temptation just as it is in real life, when you are tempted to do things that you don't want to do.